Spite.. that ugly part of you

Spite... oh what evil lurks there..Nah. lol Just immaturity really. I mean okay let us look at it intelligibly .. and disclaimer: 'I have been an ambassador of spite so trust you preaching to the choir ova here with your excuses'. Grateful to be healed now. What is spite? dictionary.com says spite [spahyt] Show IPA noun, verb, spit·ed, spit·ing. noun 1. a malicious, usually petty, desire to harm, annoy, frustrate, or humiliate another person; bitter ill will; malice. 2. a particular instance of such an attitude or action; grudge. 3. Obsolete . something that causes vexation; annoyance. Oh well that is blatant now ain't it! Back to what I was saying. Spite is so juvenile. I mean really, you just have to get back at someone for what you interpreted as wrong, despite the intent or accident. However, we all do it, knowing the laws of karma, and the truth that everything that goes around comes around, and even the wiccan witch's creed, of all things come back X three. We still have to prove that little point! You made me feel ... okay get ready for the list.. You made me feel bad, insecure, insignificant, unsatisfied, belittled, unimportant, ignored, annoyed, frustrated, fearful, worried, offended, angry, affronted, annoyed, antagonized, bitter, chafed, choleric, convulsed, cross, displeased, enraged, exacerbated, exasperated, ferocious, fiery, fuming, furious, galled, hateful, heated, hot, huffy, ill-tempered, impassioned, incensed, indignant, inflamed, infuriated, irascible, irate, ireful, irritable, irritated, maddened, nettled, offended, outraged, piqued, provoked, raging, resentful, riled, sore, splenetic, storming, sulky, sullen,tumultuous, turbulent, uptight, vexed, wrathful ~ and them just the tip of the iceberg. I mean look .. I sympathize with needing to set boundaries, but is it on you to teach a cruel lesson in the process. Why don't we all just take a chill pill and please by all means check yoself before you wreck yoself, lol. Let us take a look back at every time you took to pay back that little irritation spitefully. Did you feel validated? good for you, and you left the other person/s feeling what debilitated? Oh you are so powerful. Did you refuse them of what they asked for? Did you prevent them from enjoying the next moment, stuck in the funk you left for them to walk in? You are just a considerate little guy aren't ya lol. You look silly, and you feel worse if not in that moment .. then a little later. You don't overcome~ you have instead CHOSEN to succumb and gone even lower than your counterpart ever imparted. You don't look smarter, you look spiteful and that looks ugly and disgusting as a person and your heart.. oh my goodness let's talk about what happens to your heart. it gets darkened! The purity you felt was offended.. well you just added to the offense on yourself. Which the guilt that imparts actually leaves your worse for wear. I just don't agree with the action no matter the provoking of it. But please don't take this as an invite to internalize. We have to find healthier ways. How about we just communicate.. i.e. I didn't like what you just said/did. How hard is that? Find another way.. and please let me know what you found..cause I'm always interested in learning more ways to not go respond from cruelty6. Sigh.. the AfroHippie~ Peace Light Bliss ..A'se ~

Paying it Forward.. Being the Example

Paying It Forward does not have to be taken literally. But you should give it consideration. Why!? Cause I said so, nah I'm just playing, here is my explanation: A simple gesture of gratitude or offering of favor pays it forward. One small kind act can save someone's day, a compliment, a prayer or words to encourage will help the world be a better place. Is there some reason why you can't, won't, shouldn't pay it forward? Trust me, YOU will feel better when you do. Yes of course, the one you pay it forward to will benefit, but so do you. I'm just ensuring you understand how you can help yourself by being a payer to forwardness. No you don't have to actually pay money, no you don't have to offer a place to stay or cook a meal for someone, it doesn't even have to be a physical interaction. It does not have to be that dramatic, you can pay it forward just by being a good example to the masses. You in your daily walk can cause a ripple affect by being kind or by offering a simple smile, a glance of solidarity or a simply a thought wishing well for another or an event. Better your day by being a bright light in someone's life from the attitude you bring to the table. You Never know who is watching you. I'm not only talking about The Most High Divine/Infinite Intelligence/Creator/Goddess/ALLAH/YAVH/Oludamarre/Amen-RA (Place your deity here)being the watchful eye. The clarity is, I am talking about the young adolescent or the misplaced adult who sees your example and takes heed. Do you realize who you effect just by simply offering love as your expression. I mean why be Bitter, when you can be sweet. If You can influence one, then you can influence them all. Be the Change

Alternative Healing for My Anger today~

It is funny how anger will make you want to express yourself. Get some validation and to damn sure release what you are felling. But! it can also catch you up in a spell. A spell of greed, anger and hatred. One that you feed on every time you retell that story, every single time you think about it, the heat in your core rises once again and flushes all over you in a need to make some one feel your wrath. Everybody in your path better watch out, because trust, whether you want to or not.. you are giving off a vibe of don't funk with you. It can't be hidden that well, we can all sense it. We may not be able to identify it if we don't know any better/pay attention by observing fully. But it totally has a representation under your words, or in your walk, or even the eyes will speak the truth. Truth is, most ppl just don't want to deal, so they ignore it and figure whatever you are going through, if you want their help you will ask for it. Cause we all know.. we have been there and done that many times over, and sometimes all the help in the world won't do anything at all. Not until you face yourself in your anger and come to terms with it, establish it as valid YOURSELF or even not valid(which turns into guilt) but that is a whole other story. But only .. only after confrontation to yourself or to the other party who caused your feelings to uproar, will there be any peace in your being. I've had this situation this morning/last night. You ever wake up angry? That is so not fun.. ugh! Having dreams to justify the means of last night's happenings, justifying the behavior you bring lol. SO silly of me. Being so called spiritual, I be trying to rise above I swear I do lol. But waking up anything outside of excited for a new day is a true buzz kill, and you ain't even got started yet! BUT it can be turned around, that is until you actually deal by confronting what got ya angry in the first place. Me personally, I simply do yoga. But not just calm and restorative yoga.. OH no Hunty~ I do pissed off yoga! lol what does that look like you ask? HAHAHA it ain't pretty.. a whole lot of kicking and shaking off and huffing and puffing and a bit of screaming it a way. But the energy release was great! More than enough so I can think straight and write this blog today, lol. So I say all that to say.. I understand. I get you.. hopefully you get me. And there are ways to deal with what you are dealing with. I am all about alternative therapy, find your way, get back to happy! Peace Light A'se~ the Afro Hippie

A Single Thought

So can I just say, Herbal Tea is like a drug to this afro hippie. I need it to feed my mind seeds. Pau d'arco bark, dandelion seeds, cherry blend with lemon and honey. OH sweet chile speak them lovely caressing words to me. I am sure to swoon! Anyway .. moving on.. I come to you today with what I think is an important message. One I have been stressin to the masses for years. How much attention do you pay to your thoughts? Are you letting the brain, tell you what is good or bad? Your brain is a tool that you run things by to process. It does not run you, you operate it! Most times it is simply replaying past events it was told to compute previously, by YOU, simply out of boredom, When you haven't given it anything to do. Stop Relax Meditate on this! Bring back control to your essence, soul, spirit! Are YOU thinking positively? Let me make this simple. Positive thoughts begets positive attitudes begets positive experiences. You, yourself have the power over YOU! Not the thoughts that sway like a marquee of constant warning. Instead ponder on this food for thought: How do you choose to accept life? Don't let the past make a decision for you. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change. Power is in the perception, how do you accept it? Life experiences can at times seem disheartening, that's the fear that the brain is telling you to accept, becuase you've been thru a lesson like this before and didn't conquer. Don't be afraid. You had the previous event to teach you how to handle this one. NOW you have been built to prevail! Take the challenge with a smile for you know better now. Silence the brain, let your conscious present state of positivity win out! Your greatness is not what you have, it's what you give. SO what are you giving to others, better yet what are you giving to yourself? Be a better example for the brain so it can stop warning and start encouraging your dreams!
Peace Light and Love
The Afro Hippie

Emo/Ego arguments

So I'm sitting here, eating pancakes and scrambled eggs while sipping on some OJ. Meditating on an argument I had last week. It got blown out proportion because of the other individuals emotions. It got me to thinking, how many ppl argue like this. Cause Honestly in the midst of it, I was laughing at the incredulous behavior. Wondering is this kat has even taking two seconds to savor what I am saying or is he just trying to let free his bottled up emotions he's had for weeks, unbewknownest to me, before he unleashed his feelings in his overflow. Background:This conversation had been about a month in the wind waiting. This is BCuz said individual was avoiding me, preferring to keep his steam about what he "figured" was a disagreement, again all unbeknownest to me. I "assume" prior to the month long wait, He plainly thought to himself what he didn't like about my actions, from one thing to the next. Never, not once did the thought occur to him to inquire with me about what he didn't like or thought inappropriate. Just complete dismissal of our friendship. AND YES we were, what I thought to be very GOOD friends, close to family even. But is this how you treat family, like its nothing to write them out of your life. *shrug* Guess I'm the only one who doesn't operate my relations that way, out of spite (anymore). ANYWHO I'm trying to get around to say, take a look at how you argue or better yet converse. Are you listening? Are you being objective? You know that thing you do, when you bring up old shit, & no, not as a reference but as an opportunity to onslaught your opponent, with the fact that you been thinking they are all bad for several reasons, you aint said shit about til now. That Part. & Are you even, reflecting on what is being said to you? Are you only hearing excuse after excuse, instead of reason? Do you pull from past disagreements, making them hold weight to this situation, even tho the person you are debating is not the same? I ask because I have noticed the emotions of the ego often get in the way. Its hard to find someone who is looking for solution. Most boast and just want their say on the matter expressed, and volitile and angered words seem to come out first. This is not how we can make amends. But is that even your agenda? Have we been conditioned to only react with the attempt to slay an opponent no matter who it is. When do we consider the potential of reconcilation. Do you consider that at all? Does the weight of the measure of the friendship come into concern with the way you speak to someone. Word are things, and They do bring harm or hope. How many ties have you severed that weren't giving the opportunity to gain understanding of why someone does what they do? I'm not saying I am innocent I have been guilty too. BUT I am maturing and growing up, recognizing I am better than that. I hold more weight to the friendships I make. But I am also reminded "not to cast thy pearl before swine" this is obvious to me now. That I may think higher of some than them of me. I hope and dream for many more to to stop & think or better yet, seek to find out why before accepting offence. Try reasoning at least for a little bit. Try that shoe on for size, you might just find it fits you just right!