Emo/Ego arguments

So I'm sitting here, eating pancakes and scrambled eggs while sipping on some OJ. Meditating on an argument I had last week. It got blown out proportion because of the other individuals emotions. It got me to thinking, how many ppl argue like this. Cause Honestly in the midst of it, I was laughing at the incredulous behavior. Wondering is this kat has even taking two seconds to savor what I am saying or is he just trying to let free his bottled up emotions he's had for weeks, unbewknownest to me, before he unleashed his feelings in his overflow. Background:This conversation had been about a month in the wind waiting. This is BCuz said individual was avoiding me, preferring to keep his steam about what he "figured" was a disagreement, again all unbeknownest to me. I "assume" prior to the month long wait, He plainly thought to himself what he didn't like about my actions, from one thing to the next. Never, not once did the thought occur to him to inquire with me about what he didn't like or thought inappropriate. Just complete dismissal of our friendship. AND YES we were, what I thought to be very GOOD friends, close to family even. But is this how you treat family, like its nothing to write them out of your life. *shrug* Guess I'm the only one who doesn't operate my relations that way, out of spite (anymore). ANYWHO I'm trying to get around to say, take a look at how you argue or better yet converse. Are you listening? Are you being objective? You know that thing you do, when you bring up old shit, & no, not as a reference but as an opportunity to onslaught your opponent, with the fact that you been thinking they are all bad for several reasons, you aint said shit about til now. That Part. & Are you even, reflecting on what is being said to you? Are you only hearing excuse after excuse, instead of reason? Do you pull from past disagreements, making them hold weight to this situation, even tho the person you are debating is not the same? I ask because I have noticed the emotions of the ego often get in the way. Its hard to find someone who is looking for solution. Most boast and just want their say on the matter expressed, and volitile and angered words seem to come out first. This is not how we can make amends. But is that even your agenda? Have we been conditioned to only react with the attempt to slay an opponent no matter who it is. When do we consider the potential of reconcilation. Do you consider that at all? Does the weight of the measure of the friendship come into concern with the way you speak to someone. Word are things, and They do bring harm or hope. How many ties have you severed that weren't giving the opportunity to gain understanding of why someone does what they do? I'm not saying I am innocent I have been guilty too. BUT I am maturing and growing up, recognizing I am better than that. I hold more weight to the friendships I make. But I am also reminded "not to cast thy pearl before swine" this is obvious to me now. That I may think higher of some than them of me. I hope and dream for many more to to stop & think or better yet, seek to find out why before accepting offence. Try reasoning at least for a little bit. Try that shoe on for size, you might just find it fits you just right!